As an individual, you ponder your thoughts so often that your second guess becomes your mainstay when you should probably trust your gut instincts. I by far am not perfect but I do have a high moral code and I just believe that people should do what they say they are going to do without hesitation. I also believe that sometimes our reactions to situations set a precedent that some people can handle and on the other hand some shy away from.
I am a WHOLE me all by myself and there is nothing no one outside my immediate circle of friends that can make me think otherwise. So with that thought in mind BE YOU!
We all have some clandestine relationships with people that will rock some emotions, but truth be told EVERYBODY don’t deserve to see ALL of you. It’s a cliche but we all tend to keep our circles small and those that we are most vulnerable with GET IT! They understand when you are being your true self venting about your frustrations, heart-broken about love, redefining your life, and ultimately growing past your mistakes. In being you, you hold yourself to a high standard, especially if you have HIGH ESTEEM of yourself, better than anyone else does. You, me, or anyone else for that matter are not responsible for how people perceive you to be. Being authentically you is your super power and in this competitive world YOU have to be YOU and ON at ALL times. Even when you fall off, never let them see you sweat.
I sit and wonder about the direction my life and career is going because there’s always room for improvement. However, don’t let just anybody speak over your life. DO YOU the best way you know how and watch the pieces come together.
Based on someone’s introduction of you through what they have heard or what they have seen, some folks like you immediately and others bane your existence.
Well tough shit!
You can’t go through life living and pleasing others to the point of saying no to yourself. I don’t agree with it. I don’t believe in sugar coating a damn thing. So in doing me, I get things out in the open, off my chest, and then keep moving. You can’t go through life sparing others because one thing I have learned in my time on earth; Ain’t nobody going to spare my feelings. After I have sat and cried, festered, obsessed, and been angry about some things, I have also realized my resiliency speaks before I ever do. Everyone is not going to be sorry for how they treat you and the best way to combat that is to always stand up and DO YOU!
Your happiness. Your triumphs. Your courage. Those three things are your motivation. You have to do for yourself before you can ever do for others. In all actions let them be FOR YOU and a truly reflection of you.
If anyone claims to be perfect they are a lie and ain’t no veracity in them. I have had to forgive myself for my petty thoughts, outbursts, and reactions to the bullshit. To be totally honest I have had to accept apologies I was never going to get. Sadly, but some people don’t have problems with the things they do wrong to you, they only have a problem if you notice and call them on that shit. Tonight I am raw in this blog because I’ve been listening to people be tired of the same types of things that get on my nerves and they need an outlet. I’ll be that buffer…that go between…that voice. Sometimes we need to know that when we choose to do things for ourselves it’s not out of selfishness, but pure conservation of our energy. I can’t be who anyone wants me to be, I can only be me for me and if that offends anyone, then PARDON MY BACK! After being mistreated, overlooked, and at times rejected you have to just do what you want with not regard to others FOR YOU. That does not mean be careless for the rest of your life, that means set boundaries and never let another person take you out of your element.
We all need a reminder every now and then of just who we truly are. Some of us are more than just a pretty face. We have scars, we have pasts, we have baggage. We also have strength, we have courage, and we have wisdom.
Let go of what was. Embrace what is yet to come. Be You, Do You, For You and forget whoever ain’t with it.